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My mom picked my clothes out when I was a kid. I grew up wearing used and thrift store clothing. I was made fun of in school, especially when I was a teenager, for not having cool “mall” clothes.
I changed my style often as an adult, always loving thrift store purchases and trying looks that I altered on my own. Them I married a guy that controlled my every move, and I could only wear the styles and colors that he allowed. When I left that toxic relationship, I had to go through a lot of styles and colors (moods and baggage) to find the style that was right for me again.
Here’s how I did it...
1. Try out various styles/clothing.
Don’t take home any clothing without trying it on first. Try on lots of stuff—don’t just go for the stuff you think you like or that someone else tells you to wear. This isn’t an episode of What Not to Wear where you’ll be told that you can’t wear leather pants after 30. You can wear whatever you want, but find what works for you.
Try casual clothing. Try dress clothes. Try mixing and matching styles. I found that my favorite look combines dressy with dress-casual. I don’t like t-shirts, but I like jeans. I’d rather wear leggings with a dress, instead of nylons.
2. Experiment with accessories.
Accessories aren’t always necessary, but they can do a lot to pull a look together. A slight piece of jewelry can add a more subtle look to an outfit, while a large statement piece can be bold and can help draw out certain colors in the other pieces that you’re wearing.
I like to wear necklaces, wrap bracelets with bling, and I sometimes like to wear big and bold rings. I don’t wear earrings, but some people love them, and they can really pull a look together, whether you opt for studs or big hoops.
3. Know your preferred colors.
One of the things that I found makes me most comfortable in my style was learning what colors worked best for me. I love the colors yellow and orange, but not on me. Those, as well as white, make me feel uncomfortable and larger than I am. If you like those colors on you, wear them. Finding your style is all about what works for you.
Consider a few things when it comes to colors. Consider how a color looks with your skin tone, your hair color, and the other colors you intend to wear with it.
I wear a lot of black clothing, mainly because it’s a color I often feel most comfortable in, and it goes with everything. However, there are other colors I enjoy, including blue and green.
4. Focus on fit and comfort.
Fit and comfort are everything when it comes to finding your style. If you don’t feel comfortable in what you’re wearing it will show in your lack of confidence. You do not have to trade comfort for style. There are plenty of stylish shoes that offer comfort, as there are plenty of stylish clothes that will fit you in all the right ways.
5. Go with what makes you feel confident and happy.
Finding your style is about being confident in the clothes you’re wearing. Pick items that feel good on you and make you feel good in them! Take Marie Kondo’s advice and pick clothing that brings you joy.
Yvonne Glasgow has a Ph.D. in Holistic Life Coaching and a D.Div. in Spiritual Counseling. Yvonne has studied health and wellness, fitness, nutrition, herbal and other alternative therapies, and divination for over a decade. She is passionate about helping other people find health and happiness.
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